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  1. Hi Allegra!

    Great thoughts! This is something that I have been really focusing on the last 4 years. I lived so many years trying to be the me that others wanted me to be. It only led to frustration. Finding my true self and living out my true self has been liberating!

    Kevin

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Hey Kevin!
      Did it take you a long time to find your true self? I remember going to college for pre-law and suddenly discovering in my junior year (while taking law pre-requisite classes) that I had no real interest in being an attorney. It turns out practicing law is nothing like the TV show, LA Law. Oops! Then I had absolutely no idea what I really wanted to do because I had never considered it, I was simply following the path that had been laid out for me. Scary! Congrats on investing the time required for liberation. Be well!

  2. Christine Casey says:

    Hi Allegra ~ It wasn’t until I got into my 30’s that I figured out it’s more comfortable (and empowering) to just be yourself instead of trying to be who you think society, your family or friends, etc. think you should be like. And now, every year that I grow older [ and wiser 😉 ] I let more and more of the real me show…and that is only b/c I’ve taken the time and effort in the lst few years to really get to know who I am, what makes me tick and do the things that I’m really passionate about…even if my friends or family may not always approve or “get it”. I gotta be me and follow my own path, even if it’s slightly outside of what society labels as “norm”. 😉 Christine

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Christine,
      It sounds like we have similar families. I have always marched to a different beat (especially since I have NO rhythm) and my family is really supportive of all my twists and turns. They definitely do not always understand or approve but they do empower me to work on these things for myself. And when they do catch a glimpse of the end game they are quick with the standing ovations. Love that! Thanks for visiting.

  3. Adrian Campbell says:

    I have too recently entered into my 30’s and I have to agree that “keeping it real” and staying true to yourself makes like so much less complicated. In my younger years, I was so concerned about what people would say or think, and I spent way more hours stressing than I needed to. Great article and advice!!!

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Adrian,
      My grandmother used to tell me that I would know I was ‘grown’ when I worried more about what I thought about others, than what they thought about me. Wisdom from the elders is priceless. Take care.

  4. Ross Joyner says:

    Hey Allegra, Nice post and I get the feeling that you did well in English and Vocabulary. You are obviously a good writer. This is the first time I have visited your blog, but you make a great first impression. I will see you next week. Maybe I can learn some new writing skills from you. “Make it a Great Week”

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Hey Ross,
      Aw shucks, I’m blushing over here. We can make a deal–I’ll share writing tips and you can school me on SEO. Sound like a plan?

  5. Ylva Jansson says:

    “If you want to be authentically, sincerely, genuinely, blissfully, intentionally happy and successful you have to decide to be who YOU really are.”

    I totally agree with you and this is a thoughtful post on a topic we all need more discussion on in my opinion.

    While it is important to be authentic and be yourself, there are still boundaries we need to set on how much / what information we share with others. Especially online the tendency can be to over-share, be TOO honest about ourselves and this can be very counterproductive.

    Just as we have a persona we show our parents, another that our kids see, still another that our partners know…we also have to always be professional in our businesses. It is not inauthentic to set and protect these boundaries. It’s the smart thing to do.

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Hi Ylva,
      I agree that there is danger in oversharing and it is incredibly uncomfortable for all parties involved. You can never ‘un’-say something that you wish you hadn’t said. I’m not sure I understand what you are saying about different personas. My point is that we have a single throughline (values, personality, etc.) on who we are. That doesn’t mean I would have the same conversation with a child that I would have with another adult though. Right? I suspect we are just using different vocabulary but that we agree in principle. Thanks for keeping the discussion going!

  6. Pearly Quah says:

    Hi Allegra,

    I like many of your post title and I would like to read one at a time. Now, I have finished reading
    Being Authentic–Can You Handle It?

    Excellent, Allegra ! You have given me a great impression on you with this post 🙂

    I find that being yourself is so much easier and happier than faking it. It will allow you to find happiness and attract more genuine friends to your life. If a person wants to be happy, it doesn’t matter so much of what others may be thinking…what is important is..are you genuine happy ?

    Believe me or not, I am always thankful because I received such a beautiful gift from GOD since I was a girl. This is really a natural thing for me and I do not need experience to own it but as I grew older, I realized this is something not an easy practice to many people and many others are struggling to find the real happiness in themselves and find it difficult to be themselves if they want success.

    So, I thank you again for reminding me to be myself and be happy 🙂

    Cheers
    Pearly

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Hi Pearly,
      It’s nice to meet you. And you are lucky that you never felt any pressure to be someone different. I love your point about attracting genuine friends by being yourself. It would be a sad day to wake up and realize all of your friends belong to somebody else! Take care and thanks for visiting.

  7. Barbara Harnsberger says:

    Hello Allegra,
    I enjoyed your post. We all need to be the person we were meant to be. Sometimes we hide behind the skirts of others and we forget who we really are. There is only one you for all time. Fearlessly be yourself.

    To Much More Success,
    Barbara

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Hi Barbara,
      I love your turn of phrase–fearlessly be yourself. Thanks for stopping by!

  8. Julieanne van Zyl says:

    Hello Allegra, this is great post, and I believe your series of e-course will be great, it’s something that’s needed today, in Attraction marketing. I’ve been marketing online since “relationship marketing” or “attraction marketing” first began online with people using “Face pages” and photos to build relationships with their prospects.

    This is all about “being you” and those who embraced it and let people get to know them were successful. Those who are reluctant to let people get to know them, for one reason or another, have a lot of challenges with being successful online.

    “Being you” is also the reason why using other people’s articles on your blogs or newsletters all the time, doesn’t work so well.

    Thanks Allegra, this topic is really important! Regards from Julieanne

    1. Allegra Sinclair says:

      Julieanne,
      Thanks for your encouragement! You must have great stories from the early days of online attraction marketing. I’d love to hear more sometime. I think you’re right, the folks who thought they come come online and ‘hide’ behind the computer screen didn’t last long. We stand out by showing who we uniquely are. Have a POWERFUL week!

  9. Steve-Personal Success Factors says:

    Being our authentic selves: it’s a lot easier said than done for some of us, myself included. For myself, being myself comes when I take time for prayer and meditation, and journaling. It’s only when I get quiet that I can sometimes understand what my true ideas, thoughts, feelings, wants, are. Great post!

  10. Mandy Swift says:

    Hi Allegra, the title of this post caught my eye because it is the title of the ‘fresh start’ webinar I co-host this week! We are discussing the ‘Language of Authenticity’ and you raise such an important point when you say it begins with giving yourself “permission to be authentic “.
    I totally agree. whether it is in our business, via our personal branding or in our personal lives as we continue to peel back the layers, grow and ask the question ‘who am I really’, learning to be authentic really is at the heart of it all.
    Until we understand who we are, how can we expect anybody else to??
    Great topic, thanks 🙂

  11. I really enjoyed this post. It actually gives me an idea for an EFT tapping session for my 30 day challenge. I will add that to my list for this week.

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